Try as I might, I cannot stop writing. I find myself engaging in debates on social media as much as I struggle to just discuss It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia and jokes about poop. I cannot avoid vocalizing my opinions on popular topics, typically resulting in arguments that have me questioning my own opinions. So, here I am again. I’m just going to keep writing and if only ten of you read it, then that’s fine. The topic of today is the response the White House gave over the Ray Rice incident. If anyone is unaware: Ray Rice is an American football player that was seen on a surveillance video punching his then fiancé and dragging her unconscious body out of an elevator.
“The President is the father of two daughters. And like any American, he believes that domestic violence is contemptible and unacceptable in a civilized society,” White House spokesman Josh Earnest said in a statement.
“Hitting a woman is not something a real man does, and that’s true whether or not an act of violence happens in the public eye, or, far too often, behind closed doors,” the White House statement added, saying that stopping domestic violence “is something that’s bigger than football.”
That’s all well and good, but I want to parse the initial statement made by President Obama because I find it especially problematic.
I’m going to point this out here, instead of at the end, because I think it’s important. I am in no way trying to excuse domestic abuse or violence against women. Domestic abuse is a serious problem and is intolerable in any civilized society. Similarly, violence against women is a serious problem that we have in our society. It is contemptible and intolerable as well. There is no rational defense for violence against women or domestic abuse/domestic violence/et al. Continue reading A ‘real man’ doesn’t hit a woman